Opposite sex friendships while dating
It’s the age-old question of, “can girls and guys be ‘just friends? Below Mike Zacchio and I talk about our experiences of having close friends of the opposite sex and what it actually means to be “just friends.” Zacchio: I’ve never dated anyone I was friends with, then had it blossom into a relationship like a Monica-Chandler-type thing.All of my exes started out as acquaintances, then we hung out more, then casually dated, then were together.Chelsea: I haven’t dated a lot of the guys in my social circle because I’ve found it can easily ruin the dynamic.Once when I was in college I hooked up with one of my guy friends and it was super awkward for a while before things went back to normal.Need some guidance in creating good, strong boundaries for your marriage?Check out this hefty DIGITAL E-BOOK by Marriage Researchers & Therapists Inside, you'll find: Was this helpful to you?For 20 years, First Things First has provided relationship tools and education to couples and families in our community.When you donate to First Things First, 100% of your tax-deductible donation will help us to continue providing classes and resources to strengthen and empower the relationships that make our community great.
“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.
Shadreck Magaleta from Nchalo in Chikwawa says it is in order for one to have such friends because we all differ in the way we were raised.
“For example, a girl might have been raised in a home that was full of boys and cultivated relationships with a lot boy-friends, which can be a problem to stop even when dating,” argued Magaleta.
Fred Kantande, a second-year student at College of Medicine in Blantyre, however, says it is not proper for people in relationships to have friends of the opposite sex as it leads to loss of value of the relationship at hand.
“To me, it is absolutely wrong because it makes the other partner insecure. It is also easy to fall into temptations of doing something silly because of the affection that comes from the relationship,” he said.