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"Human beings' sexual behavior has an awful lot to do with our ability to think and imagine," Williams says."There are some primitive brain structures that operate, but our sex behavior is not seasonally driven or hormone driven -- we don't mate only in the spring, or only when the female is in heat.The title sums it up: "Universal Sex Differences in the Desire for Sexual Variety: Tests From 52 Nations, 6 Continents, and 13 Islands." "Both men and women show signs of being programmed to be monogamous in a certain way and promiscuous in a certain way," Schmitt tells Web MD."The main difference is in short-term mating strategies, or how men and women go about being promiscuous." "We don't say men and women always opt for short-term strategies," Schmitt says.And the desires of men everywhere in the world should differ in the same ways from those of women. Now there's convincing new evidence that this is so.It comes from the International Sexuality Description Project, led by David P. The projects findings appear in the July 2003 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology."What we are talking about is that when they go for infidelity or promiscuity, men focus on large numbers and women focus on quality." What really irks Schmitt is that many people interpret this finding to mean that women are designed to be faithful but men are predestined to be promiscuous. Instead, both women and men are fully equipped for one-night stands and lifelong relationships.
"I help people become conscious of their own desires," Williams tells Web MD."If you honor fidelity as important to you and your relationship, it is a matter of your own integrity to honor that."And, as the Catholics say, there is the issue of avoiding proximate occasions of sin. When people tell me they are having an affair, they think the most dangerous part is getting caught. Both can choose short-term or long-term sex strategies. Paradoxically, both men and women are also programmed to mate for life.