Dating a sex addict woman
Sex addicts use behaviors rather than substances as coping mechanisms.
These might include masturbation, compulsive viewing of pornography, infidelity, one-night stands and a host of other ‘acting out’ practices that undermine the ability to form intimate bonds with another human being.
Regardless of the particular brand of sex addiction, this stage of reentry into the dating pool is critical for every sex addict.
It cannot be rushed, underestimated or faced alone anymore than the early emergency stages of recovery could be when the addict was hitting bottom.
In fact, the author would recommend the addict to stay away from further encounters so there could be no more "potential victims" until the problem is solved.
If the addict is out there doing things with more victims, he/she is not under control and is not listening to the advice of anybody in the help groups anyway.
The group most critically in need of transparency from the sex addict - his or her potential partners - are completely ignored.
It’s natural to be confused in this case about one’s age and to find only younger people attractive.Compulsive sex is the fast food of relationships, and developing a taste for the slow-cooked meal may take some time.Here the experienced therapist can be of huge assistance by reminding the sex addict that dating is not a race, nor a competition, but rather an adventure into the complete unknown where everything the addict thought they knew about intimacy turned out to be false, and a whole new universe must open up in order to move forward. Before recovery, the sex addict made decisions independently, choosing who to date, whom to have sex with, who to contact and what acts to participate in.However, once in therapy, there inevitably comes a day when the sex addict is ready to embark on that daunting journey we call dating.For a man who has spent years, if not decades, relating to porn actresses on a computer screen, encountering a flesh and blood partner can seem unpredictable and terrifying.