Casual dating sex
So when it comes to work events, weddings, and family get togethers, keep your casual person out of it. This seems like a no-brainer, but we are creatures of habit and we are generally terrible at protecting our holy spaces, and YES, if you're a young (or even young-ish) person, the bars, coffee shops, and other hangouts you frequent are indeed your holy places.
You don't have to hide these people, but you should be pretty selective about who you introduce them to and the associated situations. They are where you go with friends, or by yourself, when you need to recharge, regroup, and feel in your comfort zone, all of which are reasons why you should definitely NOT bring someone to those precious places if you don't plan on them being a serious part of your life. You're weak and bummed out, and all of your resolve to do all the things that are good for you just fall away in the face of a more primal need to seek comfortable things.
My name is Beca and up until relatively recently, I was a serial monogamist.
I mean this next statement so hard: If you don't plan to have a more permanent relationship with someone, you don't need to be linked on social media at all. It was way too strong, way too fast, and ultimately contributed to me making sure we didn't schedule a second one. But this kind of relationship also wasn't in line with the game plan we originally discussed, and it was a bummer to lose that great thing we had, even if what we were inadvertently turning into would've been great for some people, or even for us at a different time in our lives.It accidentally established a kind of intimacy that forever warped our situation. That's the most important part, really: Maintaining an open policy of honesty between the two of you.Keep each other in the loop with your life and feelings, especially if either changes. Okay, maybe it is for some of us, but we can totally do it.I needed to do all that dating before I was ready to be part of a Relationship. If you're a serial monogamist and you're trying to keep things chill with a new person, here's exactly how you do it: Open communication is traditionally regarded as super important in any kind of relationship, no matter how serious it is. Sorry, there's no way around it: Your relationship with someone—whether it's a one-night stand or a marriage—will be pretty fucked if you can't get onboard with being as honest as possible. If you're dating one person exclusively, no matter how casual you want to keep things, they can't stay that way. I'm sorry, because I'm sure you want to protest right now, but I stand by this assessment: If you are only dating one person for long enough, no attempts to keep things light and easy, no matter how earnest, will effectively prevent that person from turning into a monogamous paramour.It offered a bit of breathing space, which, especially for people who tend to move directly from one relationship to another, can be a much-needed, incredibly valuable recovery period. Have a straight-up conversation early on to let the other person know you're not game for things to grow into something more extreme. It will happen, especially if you're already prone to getting couple-y with everyone you date.